Happy Friday everyone! It has suddenly turned from winter to spring here in this small town! +10 the last 2 days and more spring-like weather on the weekend! Welcome to Canada...
There’s a lot of questions people ask you when you are pregnant but by far the most popular is, “Do you know what you are having?”
It’s very common now for couples to find out the sex of their baby prior to delivery. And I see why people would want to know! It’s exciting to find out that gender of your baby so that you can focus on names, nursery colors and imagining life with a little boy or girl. But, there are still a few people that like the surprise and we are one of those couples.
When Ryan and I use to talk about having kids he was adamant on the fact that he would want to find out the sex of the baby. He explained that he just didn’t like the idea of a surprise and having to wait that long to find out. It was definitely something we didn’t agree on but went along our daily lives.
Then the day happened when it became a reality…we were going to be parents. We were going to be asked a lot in the coming weeks if we wanted to know the sex of the baby. We had to come to an agreement.
Thinking I had a big argument in front of me I planned out all of my rebuttal points but when I asked him if he still wanted to find out the sex of the baby he said, “no, not really. It really doesn’t matter”.
I was shocked but very happy that we had come to an agreement so easily. I just love the idea of after all this time of carrying the baby and then through the marathon called labour, that the doctor finally says, ”It’s a…”. It’s like all the hard work had come down to that moment. That I might be able to give it just a little more effort in order to FINALLY know if we have a son or daughter.
I have loved to watch people’s reaction when they find out we are not going to find out the gender. There are some people that look at you like you are crazy and then there are the ones who are pleased about the surprise. I am also enjoying hearing what people’s guesses are and what their theory is. The things that people believe in are hilarious and no at all scientifically proven but I love to hear them all.
I know that I am suppose to have this “mother’s instinct” as to what I am having. Truthfully though, I don’t know. I could probably come out with a far fetched guess with what I am feeling it is but that is all it would be. And, I am keeping that guess to myself. I don’t want to make the wrong prediction for fear of looking like I wanted one gender over the other. So for now, I am keeping everyone else’s predictions locked up in my brain for future reference. To see who’s wives tales were correct and which were not.
As of right now, Ryan and I hope to have at least another child. We will not find out the sex of any future children either. Being that we will not know the sex of the first baby everything we plan will be gender neutral. The nursery, clothes and other baby supplies will be good for either a boy or a girl. This will really come in handy with the next baby as everything will be ready even if they are of opposite sex.
My brother now has 3 children. We did not know the sex of any of those babies. Being that we work and live so close to one another I always knew when it was “time” and the baby would be arriving. As excited as I would be for the actual birth, what I was REALLY looking forward to was that phone call that would announce, “It’s a boy or girl”. It was like Christmas morning waiting for that moment!
Now I have my own “Christmas morning” feeling as the days get closer to d-day! I love this feeling of surprise and anticipation as we wait for Baby W. At times I talk to the baby saying, “Who are you little one? Mommy’s little girl or little boy?”
Now it’s your turn, tell me…If you don’t have a baby, would you find out the gender? And if you do (or are about to) did you find out or will you? And why or why not? What are your thoughts!